Royal life has had its fair share of challenges for Prince Harry, most notably when his mother, Princess Diana, died. According to one royal expert, Harry felt “trapped” by that life after suffering such an unimaginably devastating loss.
It was a difficult time for Prince Harry
Royal biographer Angela Levin shared how Prince Harry was impacted by his mother’s passing, noting in her book, Harry: Conversations with the Prince, that he was “falling apart inside” but managed to put on a brave face.
She noted: “It wasn’t until 2017 that he confessed that the
previous few years had been a real struggle, that he’d bottled up his emotions
for two decades but waited until he was twenty-eight before seeking help.”
Levin explained, “At the time he’d felt trapped by his royal
life and grief-stricken over the loss of his mother. He badly needed someone to
talk to about this but it was hard to find anyone emotionally available.”
Harry felt like he couldn’t talk to anyone
Prince Harry, according to Levin, felt like he couldn’t share his feelings with any family members, as they believed “emotions should be kept under control.”
She explained: “It was not a subject he felt able to raise
with his father who was very happy with Camilla Parker Bowles and had made a
new, more contented life for himself. Harry was pleased for him, but how could
he pour out his heart about how much he missed his mother, longed to feel at
peace in her arms, when he knew full well how devastated she had been about
Levin continued, “Nor could he open his heart to the Queen
and Duke of Edinburgh who had mixed feelings about the charismatic but troubled
princess and believed that emotions should be kept under control. While Harry,
like his mother, does not.”
Harry shared how he got help
In a 2017 interview with The Telegraph, Prince Harry opened up about those troubling times and how he finally got the help he needed for his mental health — he admitted he “shut down all his emotions” for 20 years.
Prince Harry noted: “I can safely say that losing my mum at
the age of 12, and therefore shutting down all of my emotions for the last 20
years, has had a quite serious effect on not only my personal life but my work
as well.” He added: “I have probably been very close to a complete breakdown on
numerous occasions when all sorts of grief and sort of lies and misconceptions
and everything are coming to you from every angle.”
“Look, you really need to deal with this. It is not normal to think that nothing has affected you,” he noted.
He eventually got help and Prince William was instrumental in that, as Harry shared: “It’s all about timing. And for me personally, my brother, you know, bless him, he was a huge support to me. He kept saying this is not right, this is not normal, you need to talk to [someone] about stuff, it’s OK.”
Prince Harry added, “The timing wasn’t right. You need to feel it in yourself, you need to find the right person to talk to as well.”